Still trying to find one

Last weekend I was back in Milwaukee visiting Bill. We were at the usual bar on Saturday night when I talked to a really good looking girl who plays club volleyball. At first I wasn't sure what she was like, but it turned out that she's also smart, which is a big plus for me. She told me that her team was having a drinking event in Chicago (where they play), and I should go. Moments later, this girl told me she need to check up on her friends who were literally right behind her. That was the end of our conversation that night. Needless to say, I was confused as to if she really wanted me to go.

So last night was the event she was talking about. I thought it would be a little bit more obvious to see if she was there, but I had to keep in mind that I kind of forgot what she looked like. I wasn't even sure if I was at the right bar. It wasn't until a friend asked a girl with a wristband if it was for volleyball that it all fell into place. Not only were we at the right event, but one of the girls in the group happened to be the same one I talked to! So we had some on and off conversation during the night. Most of the time when I saw her, a guy was hitting on her, so that was great for me. The fact that I didn't think she really wanted to see me got me kind of down again, but before leaving, I tried talking to her one more time to get her number.

I'm not sure if it was a good idea or not (probably not), but I thought that I should try to at least show some interest to see what she does. So I said something to the effect of "So I think you listen to some pretty good music, and you're kind of nerdy, which I think is hot, so would you want to meet up some time when you come back to Chicago?". She laughed at the line about nerdiness, which I guess could be good, and she seemed excited when she agreed to meet up. I'm sure it's still my low self-confidence, but I just don't really buy it. So we've switched numbers now, but I'm not sure what the next step would be. Since I'm the guy, should I contact her first? Or since she's the one who goes to Chicago, should I wait until she tells me when she'll be there? I'll have to think that one through.


Before you ask a girl for her number, do you have some type of "intro" like I use? What is it? Or do you just ask for the number and leave?

Scenesters and Douches

Scenester

Despite the fact that the company I work for furloughed eight days of pay out of the last two months of 2008, we got Good Friday as a paid vacation day. What I did during the day isn't really worth mentioning. I did turn my bike from fly wheel to fixed gear, and it's harder than I thought it would be. At night, my friend from UK Village (I'll just call him Kumar) and I went to the Crystal Castles show that I'd mentioned. Needless to say, it was packed with scenesters, which isn't necessarily a bad thing. The show itself was good, albeit a little short. To CC's defense, they played probably 10 or so of the 17 songs they actually have. While we were there, Kumar and I talked to a few of the scenesters who were pretty cool. They won points for their love of David Bowie. After the show, Kumar and I told the girl that we were going back to UK Village and they should join. We got the typical "We'll See" and left it at that. Later that night, we went to the local bar and ended up seeing the girls. They were actually there to meet someone else, but we ended up talking for the rest of the night. I ended up trading phone numbers with one of the girls. She wasn't great looking (kind of cute, though), but I'll probably give her a call in the coming weeks.


Douchebags


Saturday led to pretty much nothing happening all day until the nighttime. Kumar was out of town, as well as a different friend, so my only option (though I would've done it anyway) was to go out with some friends in Wrigleyville, the worst neighborhood in the city. I often vocalize my hatred for this neighborhood particularly because it mixes my hatred for the Cubs and my hatred (no, but general dislike) of all the douchebags who walk around wearing Affliction t shirts but miraculously getting girls' attention. So spending time with my two friends (one guy, one girl) is always pretty fun, but I felt like trying to meet some girls who I would actually be attracted to. I feel like most of the girls on Wrigleyville/Lincoln Park may be smart, but they don't really act like it. For the most part, though, they're just Corny White Girls. So for the rest of the night I talked with some halfway hipster girls who were in town from St. Louis to see the Lily Allen show tonight. They were pretty nice, and, as usual, the attractive one had a boyfriend.

So that was my weekend. Not too awesome, but not bad at all.

If you're out meeting girls (or are a girl) what's the first line you generally say/hear? A compliment, or just random (where are you from)? I think I usually go w/ asking where people are from, unless I'm at an event like live music.

Almost a Pretty Good Birthday Weekend

So my birthday's now come and gone. I had somewhat high hopes for the weekend, and it all kind of fizzled out.

I actually did find the balls to invite Rachel from the Store to grab a drink. Like all girls I've asked on any kind of meetup, she gave a "yes" with a built-in loophole. This one was that she was working late at night the night before and had to get up early to work the following morning. Though she'd get off at 730, she may still be tired. Well, I called around 5:30 as I said, got the voicemail (I don't think I've ever spoken to the girl on the first call), and gave the general info. Now, the "I have a lot of work" excuse would be sufficient if Rachel actually did want to visit, but since she never showed up and hasn't called back in four days now, I'm guessing that's the last I'll hear from her. So now I'm most definitely down to zero girls I'm interested in.

I think it's pretty hard to meet girls while in my situation. All the girls in my neighborhood are too cool for me, while all the girls in Lincoln Park are too stupid for me (keep in mind, these are generalizations, but I don't talk to enough girls to find many exceptions). I still find it hard to believe that most guys get shot down all the time, and once they find a girl who likes them, they act like they're batting 1.000.

As of a few weeks ago, I was under the impression that my friend from Milwaukee was going to drive to Chicago for my birthday weekend. Apparently he didn't get the memo. He didn't realize he missed my birthday until three days after, so apparently there was no thought to driving down. The friends I had in town were more than sufficient, though. Only about four of them knew/cared that we were also celebrating my birthday and not just Jane's job-switching drinkfest.

Well at least it's a short week and on Friday I'm going to see Crystal Castles.

So I guess I'll start finishing these posts like Ryan Dodge of the Single-ish Glamour Blog (which is a pretty good one to read. He pretty much asks all the questions regular guys have) by asking a question or comment. This one is from earlier in the post:

When you casually ask a girl out (either alone or in a group) for the first time, how often do they give those "loophole yes's"?

PS That location traffic banner pretty much makes it look like the same 5 or so people are checking this out. I'd appreciate comments on these because I obviously don't know what the hell I'm doing.

My New Celebrity Crush

This is it. The most beautiful girl I've seen in a while (if ever).

I just got done watching Slumdog Millionaire. The movie was quite good, but this girl is gorgeous. Not a lot to say after that, but I hope she's around for a while and can pick up some good roles.


So tomorrow's my birthday. I think my coworkers are happier to say Happy Birthday more than I am. I'm not too excited about it, but that's not a big deal. I asked Jane if she wanted to meet up among my other friends for drinks, but she's leaving my company and taking a different job. So for that, she's having a "Going Away Get Together." I feel like it'll take away all the luster of my birthday, since I'm only inviting about 20% (or less) of the people joining, but whatever. Hopefully it'll still be a good time.

For some reason (probably because I saw her again recently), I've become interested in Rachel from the store again. I've been toying with the idea of stopping by and asking her to join in the Friday night meetup, but I'm still pretty unsure of it. She tried pretty hard to sell me some more stuff after I picked up a shirt, so I think that's all it may be. Still, I'd like to give it a shot. I don't know what the huge downside may be outside of a slight awkwardness when I enter the store for a while (is that so bad?). I've been thinking that I may drop by tomorrow to see if she's there and ask, but I just get so nervous. Maybe I'll try it out, though. I don't know. It would be nice if there she gave me some sort of sign that she was interested, but the lack thereof may be the answer itself. I'll ask someone at work for advice (as usual).

I'll keep you filled in.