Am I Making a Mistake?

"I immediately regret this decision." or Do I?


Today I called Heidi. It had been over a week since I last called, and I'm attracted to her enough that I wanted to see what would happen.

Now in reference to my last post, you may think "I thought you deleted her number." Well, kind of. I deleted the contact, but there were still some text messages lingering around. So like the sap I am, I dug through the history to find her number.

Heidi answered, and after I gave an awkward sounding "So...How've you been?" she said that she got in a fight with a friend; Hence, no volunteering appearance. I think she was trying to insinuate that's why she didn't call back for 10 days also. Heidi threw in a quick "I was actually thinking about you today, and about calling to get a drink." I'm not sure how true this is. Could she just be asking me because she knew that's exactly what I was calling for?

So we're going to grab a drink on Thursday. I'm hoping that I'm wrong about her, and Heidi had a good reason not to call back. I won't find out until then, I guess. I just know that I definitely won't be trying to kiss her this time.

What do you think? Should I just meet up with her this once, but try to forget about her because she should have gotten back to me? Or should I give it a chance with a girl I have feelings for?

Haaave you met R?

C'mon. I love this show.

Last Saturday was my friend R's birthday. He's a big Lincoln Park fan (he lives there) so I agreed to meet up. Since I don't really take any of the girls who live there seriously (one suggested I add a bell, basket, and pegs to my road bike so I'd look like a douchebag. Weird), I figured I'd do what I could to help him meet some girls.

I didn't have a great idea of what to do to rope in a girl to talking to R (not to say anything negative about him in that way, though). Instead, I just went with the go-to wingman move used by Barney Stinson (For those who don't know: Neil Patrick Harris on How I Met Your Mother. Start watching it): simply saying "Have you met (insert buddy name here)?" and getting out of the way.

Though the girl was interested enough to talk to R, R commented that it was like talking to a picture of a hot girl: no steady conversation. So unfortunately, my attempts for R turned out to be un-Legendary.

These interactions led me to a few conclusions, though:

1)It's way easier to talk to girls at bars when you aren't super drunk (which I usually am). Maybe that's one thing to work on, as opposed to knowing all the lyrics to the 90s rap songs that play.

2)How come it's easier to approach the opposite sex for other people? There was no hesitant questioning if I should wait until Girl of Interest was absolutely alone or looking in our direction. Nope, those feelings were saved for later in the night when I considered talking to girls (I didn't).


But back to the general meeting girls thing, how do girls generally feel if someone were to buy them a drink and try to talk to them? Jay's girlfriend says it's not a big deal and it shows interest. I've never done it before. Not because I'm cheap, but I feel like I'd be making a girl feel obligated to talk to me for five minutes or whatever.

Does this actually happen? Or do girls just think "Sweet. Free drink"?