Am I Making a Mistake?

"I immediately regret this decision." or Do I?


Today I called Heidi. It had been over a week since I last called, and I'm attracted to her enough that I wanted to see what would happen.

Now in reference to my last post, you may think "I thought you deleted her number." Well, kind of. I deleted the contact, but there were still some text messages lingering around. So like the sap I am, I dug through the history to find her number.

Heidi answered, and after I gave an awkward sounding "So...How've you been?" she said that she got in a fight with a friend; Hence, no volunteering appearance. I think she was trying to insinuate that's why she didn't call back for 10 days also. Heidi threw in a quick "I was actually thinking about you today, and about calling to get a drink." I'm not sure how true this is. Could she just be asking me because she knew that's exactly what I was calling for?

So we're going to grab a drink on Thursday. I'm hoping that I'm wrong about her, and Heidi had a good reason not to call back. I won't find out until then, I guess. I just know that I definitely won't be trying to kiss her this time.

What do you think? Should I just meet up with her this once, but try to forget about her because she should have gotten back to me? Or should I give it a chance with a girl I have feelings for?

Learning From Mistakes

So in the course of trying to get a date, one has successes and failures that shows him that repeating the actions is either a good or bad idea. More often than not, these actions come with a bit of ambiguity. Should you pay a girl a compliment? Should you ask for a first date on a weekday or weekend? Day or night?

But every so often I do something that says "No! Never do that again." This was one of those cases. As I spoke with a friend about New Interest S, I wondered what I should do if/when I get voicemail (I've always gotten voicemail when calling girls for the first time). She said that I was obviously calling to ask for a date and I wouldn't want to just trick her into calling me back, so should just casually ask on the voicemail if it comes up. It seemed like a logical idea at the time.

So now it's over a day later, and I've heard nothing. I imagine that if a girl who wanted to go on a date got the message, then she could find 3 minutes to call me back. Instead, I just induced the most annoying part of dating: being ignored instead of receiving a straight answer. In hindsight, the Voicemail Date was an awful idea. I should have just asked to be called back and if that doesn't work twice, then I'm done.

But really, does it matter? She's going to say no either way. It may be true that I just want my chances with a new girl to last, since I seldomly meet them. In fact, that's probably it, but I'm still not making the same mistake.

What about you? Do you have a certain method for asking someone out? Or do you let your phone go to voicemail when someone calls for the first time?

The First of Many?

So this is it...blog...Who takes a compound word and then shortens it so it starts with the last letter of the first word? You don't turn homework into "ework." But I guess no one calls it h-work either.

As for the name, I should let you know that it has nothing to do with Frank Lloyd Wright, but more to do with the illest rapper ever, the Notorious BIG. Sidenote: I heard there were multiple stabbings at the Notorious afterparty. looks like 1995 is back.

But let's see...There's Christopher Walken in King of New York as Frank White:



There's Biggie, the Black Frank White:


And myself, the new, less gangster Yellow Frank White:

Not as threatening

I guess the main reasons to follow this blog would be to see how my dating life is going (currently non-existent) as well as any other randomness.

My friend from work, who I'll call Jane, also has a blog and mentioned that they can be good to have. Since I have a mild crush on Jane, here I am. I said that my blog would be mostly complaining and talking about my boring nightlife, but she responded that that's what they all are. So here goes...

I've decided not to tell any of my friends what my blog is so I can write whatever I want.

Currently I have a yuppie job at a company that's tanking (but who doesn't?). Even though my strong work ethic (because of that asian upbringing) led me to believe that my job would be good and I could enjoy it, it sucks. I look at the the three jobs above mine, and they all suck too. It's all easy work that isn't stimulating. And what isn't easy is damn near impossible. So there's that whole job market thing I have to start with again. I'm armed with my one full year of experience and that's it.

As for the dating life, there's definitely room for improvement. My levels of cynicism seem unmatched (though they're probably no worse than others'): I'm boring when I talk to girls, nervous, *cough*virgin*cough* (now I really hope none of my friends see this), and I don't think I've been on a date since...2006.
But what do you say? Keep asking? Keep trying? That's the tough part. Having confidence in dating after being shut down numerous times is like A-Rod turning into Mr. October, pretty hard/unlikely. I wanted my New Year's Resolution to be to talk to a girl every week (usually weekends). So far I haven't talked to anyone. Damn that low self-esteem. I don't know about any of the male readers, but as a competitive person, I always think there's probably someone smarter/better looking/savvier than myself. I guess I have my work cut out for me.

And as for Jane from work, she's smart, pretty, and has a lot of similar interests. Except for the mutual interest. Am I the only one who knows girls who often say that it should be easy for a person like myself (and yourself) to get a date, but would never do it themselves?

Well, hopefully the coming days and weekend will be better. But I need to figure out how to enjoy my time without drinking. I decided to quit today because it wasn't so good for the depression part.

YFW