Last Saturday was my friend R's birthday. He's a big Lincoln Park fan (he lives there) so I agreed to meet up. Since I don't really take any of the girls who live there seriously (one suggested I add a bell, basket, and pegs to my road bike so I'd look like a douchebag. Weird), I figured I'd do what I could to help him meet some girls.
I didn't have a great idea of what to do to rope in a girl to talking to R (not to say anything negative about him in that way, though). Instead, I just went with the go-to wingman move used by Barney Stinson (For those who don't know: Neil Patrick Harris on How I Met Your Mother. Start watching it): simply saying "Have you met (insert buddy name here)?" and getting out of the way.
Though the girl was interested enough to talk to R, R commented that it was like talking to a picture of a hot girl: no steady conversation. So unfortunately, my attempts for R turned out to be un-Legendary.
These interactions led me to a few conclusions, though:
1)It's way easier to talk to girls at bars when you aren't super drunk (which I usually am). Maybe that's one thing to work on, as opposed to knowing all the lyrics to the 90s rap songs that play.
2)How come it's easier to approach the opposite sex for other people? There was no hesitant questioning if I should wait until Girl of Interest was absolutely alone or looking in our direction. Nope, those feelings were saved for later in the night when I considered talking to girls (I didn't).
But back to the general meeting girls thing, how do girls generally feel if someone were to buy them a drink and try to talk to them? Jay's girlfriend says it's not a big deal and it shows interest. I've never done it before. Not because I'm cheap, but I feel like I'd be making a girl feel obligated to talk to me for five minutes or whatever.
Does this actually happen? Or do girls just think "Sweet. Free drink"?
I personally think it depends on how much you pursue the issue after buying the drink. Light conversation is fine, but if you get through the convo and the guy is attempting to program his number in your phone when you clearly don't want it then that's a little creepy.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I love How I Met Your Mother!!!!! I don't think I could watch that show enough. :)
I never had a random guy even approach me at a bar in college so you can imagine my surprise when I had a guy buy me a drink a few weeks after graduating and moving to Pittsburgh. Two guys were sitting across the bar and sent drinks over to my friend and I. Sadly, they were also well into their 40's and I think one had a mullet. So being the typical 21 year old that I was, my friend and I did an air-cheers (much like a Barney style air-five but not nearly as cool as the phone-five), drank the drinks, and then hid in the bathroom. I was clearly mature well beyond my years.
ReplyDeleteI feel like buying girls drinks is turning into a lost art. I would be highly impressed if a guy in his 20's walked up to me at a bar and bought me a drink. But, you also kind of have to pull it off. You can't just walk up and say, "Wow! You’re hot. Can I buy you a drink?" If it were me, I’d want a guy to talk to me for a minute or two and then offer to buy me a drink. That way I knows he’s actually interested in continuing the conversation and not just into me for my looks. And if by the bottom of the glass, you've run out of things to talk about, it just goes down in the books as another random bar experience.
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